My beloved aunt is getting a woman’s fear of marriage.

This will be her second time getting married as of Thursday the 19th and after talking with her about it these past few weeks it is easy to see that she is terrified. I was just old enough to know her first husband and refer to him as an uncle, I was roughly 7 when they got a divorce and didn’t understand it at the time. Her first husband was a great man and loving father to my cousins. The problem, however, was that he was a horrible husband to my aunt. She recalls her marriage changing drastically, saying, ” A month after the wedding he came in the front door, dropped his boots and walked out the back door. He was gone for four hours and when he came back he was never the same man.” Now at 50 years old she is getting married for the second time to a man who is completely different than her first husband.

Often times people assume that women are looking for a ring in every one of their relationships and that they can’t be content in a date style relationship, which is just not the case. My aunt, while she loves the man dearly, is terrified that he will change once they are married.

My aunt has been in love with this man, according to her, since she was nine and he didn’t even notice her till recently. With all the history they have, she is still petrified that this marriage will not work out.

Another someone in my family, my cousin, got married at the age of twenty-two after dating a man for a total of 60 days. She has been married for seven years and hates the man with a passion, everyone in our family is patiently waiting for the day that they decide to get a divorce. Although no one wants it to be the case, we all expect it.

The point of this article is not to ramble aimlessly about my aunt’s, thus far, failed love life, but to emphasize what I tell everyone; marriage should never be the next step in a relationship and it should be thought out methodically before jumping in.

You could wind up with the dream relationship such as my aunt and her fiance, who have had 2.5 arguments in the duration of their entire relationship, or you could end up in a relationship such as my cousin who rarely stops to breathe in between arguments with her husband. Marriage is never just the next step to a relationship or something you should do because you have to, it is a big decision that should never be taken lightly.

The point of this article is not to ramble aimlessly about my aunts thus far failed love life but to make a emphasize what I tell everyone, that marriage should never be the next step in a relationship and it should be thought out methodically before jumping in. While you wind up with the dream relationship such as my aunt and her fiance who have had 2.5 arguments in their entire relationship or you could end up in a relationship such as my cousin who rarely stops to breathe in between arguments with her husband. Marriage is never just the next step to a relationship or something you should do because you have to, it is a big decision that should never be taken lightly.