Renezmai Rude

In the beginning of a relationship, dates can be extremely stressful and exhausting. So, to help you guys out there keep your dates on the fun side, I have put together a 3 part series on what you should talk about, wear, and even where you should go, all from the perspective that matters; a woman.

This being the first part, we will go over what you should talk about. In the next, we will go over what you should wear, and so on down the list. As you get more comfortable and get to know your date, you will have a better understanding of what is okay and not okay to say to her; for now, here are the basics. 

The Opening

There isn’t a lot that you can’t talk about during your date. Sometimes it’s just a matter of coming up with ideas that you can talk about with her. One thing you can always talk about is her! Ask her a lot of questions about her life, job, family, and anything else you can think of. Talking about her and her interests makes her feel like you are interested, as well as care about her life. However, don’t shut up and listen the whole date- you need to talk too. Talk about your family, friends, and even your pets. You can talk about your hobbies and learn about your common interests as well. Another great thing to talk about is your plans for your career- women love a man with a future. Don’t ramble on, of course, but if you want to own your own auto-shop, or finish law school, talk about it!

What to Avoid

While there are not a lot of things that you cannot talk about, there are a few that should generally be avoided. The first, and most important; other women. This one is kind of obvious, but still deserves some going over. I have been with my boyfriend for a very long time, so I am comfortable with him talking about girls he finds attractive, as I know that I am the only women in his life romantically. This isn’t true for all women, and it most certainly isn’t something you should talk about during your first few dates. Don’t talk about your ex girlfriends under any circumstances- it makes us feel as though you are not completely over them. Don’t talk about the cute waitress either- in fact, the only women you should be focused on during the date, is the one you are actually on the date with. Another thing you don’t want to do is talk negatively during the date; nobody likes a negative Nancy. It’s extremely unattractive, so at least for the date, be positive!

As long as you are being respectful and kind, you can talk about pretty much anything. Just don’t spend the whole time talking- a conversation is a two way street, so be sure to include her in as well. Don’t let the stress of making the date great ruin your fun. Enjoy yourself, and most importantly, be confident in yourself. The conversation will never be a good one if you spend the whole time fretting over what happens if you say the wrong thing.