By: Renezmai Rude 

Men believe that they need a wingman to be able to talk to and “pick up” women- how wrong they are is a little funny and silly to think about. Having a wingman there to build you up just makes you seem “less than”. If you really are worth talking to, you should be able to hold a conversation without a wingman starting it. Why are wingmen not needed? Well here are a few reasons from a woman’s point of view.

 For instance, let’s say your wingman is building you up to this beautiful woman and it all seems to be going good, but what if this woman is more attracted to him than you? He is the one actually holding a conversation with her instead of you. You don’t know what this woman is attracted to. Take me for example: if your wingman is tall and a little on the geeky side, he fits my type perfectly. Why would I want to talk with you when I can talk with him? I would be more interested in your wingman than you in a matter of seconds.

Another reason why you don’t want a wingman is that it makes you seem like you don’t have enough confidence to approach her yourself. Confidence is key when it comes to coming across as attractive to women. Walking up to a woman and introducing yourself gives a much better impression that needing “back up” just to approach her. If you are in need of someone else making a first impression for you, what interest should someone take in talking to you? Not only that, but it vaguely reminds me of middle schoolers having their friends tell their crush that they like them instead of saying it themselves.

The question remains, however: how do you approach women? Well, if I haven’t made it clear enough, without a wingman for starters. If you absolutely must have someone by your side, I would suggest bringing your sister. Having a sister or other female relative as a wingwoman can easily make you seem more trustworthy and nice to talk to. It seems more like you are a genuinely nice guy when you are out with a sibling, whereas being surrounded by wingmen and other friends has a more “trying to get laid” impression.

Even better than a wingwoman would be to have no one as back up. It shows a lot of confidence for a man to approach a woman. Not only that, but it gives you a chance to show her how charming and charismatic you are instead of having a wingman telling her. I am not saying to go out drinking or to a party alone without friends- of course, bring friends and have a good time. What I am saying is that when approaching a woman, you do not under any circumstances need someone else to do it for you.